Feelings is something which everyone has and no should mess with them... Be it family, friends, gf/bf, and in the future your spouse and kids... Even the most tyrannical figures, like Hitler and what have you, have feelings too... Feelings are very very powerful and if used wrongly, can lead to dire consequences... But feelings can also make the whole world go round for people... Feelings of love, joy, happiness can make a person... But when all that's taken away, the person is not rid of feelings but rather, negative feelings like sadness, hatred and jealousy take over... It's like so 'duh' but sometimes it is precisely things lke these that we take for granted... We only think about it and regret our actions when it happens... But of all the feelings, the strongest and most powerful and at the same time, most lethal feeling is love...
Love makes the world go round... Love can also create jealousy... We all know how love makes the world go round and lets people feel like they are on cloud 9... But are we aware of the selfish and jealous nature of love? I can say not many of us are... Girls and guys do get jealous... A guy can get jealous when another guy goes out with his girl and vice versa... Or the scenerio can be different... 2 girls/guys fighting over the same guy/girl... Such feelings can make or break a friendship or/even a potentially successful relationship... When such things arise, more often than not, we let our feelings get the better of us... Why do we use our hearts and not our heads to think? Didn't Max Weber say that all humans are rational and that whole means and ends theory - how the end determines the way we go about a certain task and that as humans, we will choose the most rational option? So is he wrong because humans are also tend to be very very subjective creatures?
Anyway,coming back to the subject matter... Love can make and break a person... I have experienced it first hand and have also heard of friends who went through worse situations than me (maybe I'm just lucky or I get over it real quick... I dunno... I'd like to believe the latter)... I had friend who was already planning her wedding (she was only 20 then) and the next thing I know, she and her boyfriend broke up... For what reason, I don't know... It's like one moment they were so blissful and the next, her whole life was shattered... It took her sometime to recover, but the scars still remained... I also have been in a situation where the girl cannot let go of the guy... She made a big ra-ra at Orchard... Screaming her head off... And that was like 4 years after they broke up!!
I know such things hurt a lot... I have been cheated on... I have been through break ups... But what is it that prevents people from moving on? Is it the illusion they have that their ex is the perfect person for them? Or is it because they have given/received so much that they feel obligated to the other party? Or is it the many things they shared/did as a couple? I can't answer that myself... For me, I keep the good times, take the bad ones as lessons that were learnt and move on... Am I being too harsh/selfish to the other person? I mean I have to move on right? I cannot be forever dwelling on it and not progressing in life right? Am I being very very selfish? I don't know... It's just me...
I don't know if everything I said made sense... But oh well.. I can't think right now this very minute... Maybe the cold and lost voice are getting to me... Or maybe there are a lot of questions that are starting to flood my already saturated brain... Or maybe its just the songs playing on my laptop now... What ever the reason is, the bottom line is don't ever mess with a person's feelings... You may live to regret it one day... If you love someone, don't be afraid to say it... If you feel otherwise, do let the person know too... If you are unsure of things, talk it out with the person involved and you might find your answer... If there are things holding you back, weigh the consequences... Life is all about taking risks... Every decision comes with its own implications... You wouldn't know until you try it... Give everything a shot... Take the chance... Who knows, it could be the best thing that happened to you...
